Sex: What we know about the female orgasm

The female orgasm is without a doubt one of the most talked about chapters of sex. However, no matter how many questions you have answered, there are always more questions or newer scientific facts. The following answers shed light on many obscure points.

Women sometimes find it difficult, some wonder and worry, some just enjoy it, whatever form it takes. Men either try too hard, or find it difficult to understand its mechanism, are indifferent, consider it proof of their masculinity and «abilities». In any case, the Orgasm belongs to the much-discussed chapters of sex.

Secrets and lies about the female orgasm

The male orgasm serves a basic evolutionary purpose: reproduction. With ejaculation, which is identical to the male orgasm, the sperm aims to fertilise the female egg. In contrast, the «usefulness» of the female orgasm - although much discussed - is unknown and questionable. What is certain is that its achievement certainly pushes women to want to have sex again. It also brings them closer to the erotic partner.

In addition, many possible health benefits from orgasm, but there is no sufficient scientific evidence to confirm this. It certainly brings pleasure, thanks to the dopamine secreted during it. So, improves mood, reduces stress and boosts the immune system.

Also, during orgasm oxytocin is secreted, which is associated with love and emotional connection and helps to strengthen the relationship between the two partners. Finally, there is some scientific evidence to suggest that it may also improve fertility (e.g. because the uterine contractions during orgasm may help to improve the transport of sperm to the egg).

The physical origin of orgasm in men, psychological in women

Sexual pleasure is considered to have a mainly psychological origin and basis in women, while in men it is mainly physical. Maybe that's why men orgasm much more often than women (at least heterosexuals). In men we are talking about a rate of 95% while in women we are talking about 50 to 70%. Also, the psychological basis of the female orgasm is supported by the fact that women can come to orgasm without any physical contact, even just with their minds.

5 things you may not know

• Women who are more likely to have more orgasms are those who have a higher economic and educational level, who are more open-minded and less religious, who are in happy relationships and who have not experienced psychological trauma in their lives.
• For women, sexual pleasure does not always have to be associated or combined with orgasm.
• Homosexual women have multiple orgasms more often and sex seems to last longer each time but is less frequent than in heterosexual relationships.
• For both men and women, orgasm is achieved more easily and with greater certainty through masturbation.
• Women, in the context of casual sexual encounters, can even experience multiple orgasms with only one condition: that shame and scruples are forgotten once the partners are in bed. Besides, the reasons why a woman will reach orgasm in the context of a long-term companionate relationship are probably completely different from the reasons why she will reach orgasm during a one night stand.

Why can women have multiple orgasms and men can't?;

Research shows that both men and women, although they have different anatomy, seem to have similar visual stimulation in the brain. Yes, there are scientists who have been able to convince women and men to masturbate during MRI scans to monitor how their brains work in this process.

After the escalation, though, things are different between men and women. Certain areas of the male brain no longer react to such stimuli, unlike the female brain, which probably explains the multiple orgasms that women can have. For men this is not possible and a period of time needs to pass between their two orgasms.

The importance of the clitoris

Male and female embryos have the same body and nerve endings in the womb for the first two months of life, until they eventually become girls or boys. Thus, some doctors believe that the clitoris is what is left of the organ that did not evolve to become the penis.

The clitoris was first mentioned as a distinct anatomical feature in the 16th century, but then forgotten. It comes to the fore in the 20th century, but many still consider it of little importance. Then, Freud supports the theory that the vaginal orgasm is the most mature and «superior» to the clitoral orgasm, and the truth is that she the impression has been established since then, but without the.

What is certain is that vaginal orgasm is rarer. 30 to 40% of women say they have never reached orgasm solely by penetration, while those who orgasm clitorally are clearly much more numerous. Other researchers estimate the percentage of women who reach a vaginal orgasm to be less than 10%. Some wonder if vaginal orgasm doesn't even exist.

Recent theories claim that perhaps women who have a vaginal orgasm experience it again thanks to the clitoris, which happens to be closer to the entrance of the vagina and probably larger, so it is stimulated by penetration and thus contributes to orgasm.

What happens to point G?;

The famous G-spot was first described in the early 1980s by the German gynaecologist Ernst Gräfenberg. Some now claim that there is no, others that it is found in only some women. In theory, it is a point at the top of the vaginal opening, which as it is stimulated causes orgasm. According to some, is also responsible for the «ejaculation» experienced by some women, the secretion of a large amount of fluid from the urethra (which is not urine), which is similar to the male urethra.

Is it wrong for a woman to pretend?;

According to research, 67% of heterosexual women have faked orgasm at times. There is a social impression that faking orgasm is desirable. But according to researchers from the University of Texas, what matters more is why a woman fakes it. If she's doing it for her partner, then yes, she's doing it wrong. But if she's doing it for herself, she may use this method to eventually achieve a better orgasm, since the psychological factor has a huge impact on the female orgasm.

The difficulty of achieving orgasm

It is estimated that orgasmic difficulty affects 16 to 28% of women in Europe. When a woman cannot come to orgasm (anorgasmia or orgasmic disorder, which, to be called that, must have been a concern for at least 6 months) it does not necessarily mean that there is a psychological background. It may have to do with hormonal issues (e.g. menopause) or a health issue (e.g. diabetes, hypertension, gynaecological infections, etc.) that permanently, from time to time or transiently prevents orgasm.

To solve any organic cause that may be preventing orgasm, it should be identified by a doctor and treated on a case-by-case basis (when possible). Often, hormonal preparations, lubricating gels, antidepressants and anticonvulsants can help.

In any case, psychological intervention can help a woman who finds it difficult to come to orgasm, as very often the causes are mixed and psychology also plays a role. Issues such as conflict between desires and social demands, guilt, inhibitions, shame, shame, underestimation, a sense of inadequacy, low self-esteem and resentment, as well as frustration or discomfort due to a poor self-image, a past traumatic sexual experience, depression etc.

Parameters such as a «bad relationship» with the partner, lack of sex education and ignorance also play a role. In this case, the intervention of a specialist, meditation and good communication, open discussion and experimentation in sex by the couple. Research says that reaching orgasm is aided by intense kissing, attempting to stimulate the clitoris during penetration and oral sex.