Relationships: 8 signs that you met the right person at the wrong time

It can happen that you meet the right person at the wrong time. But how will you know when that happens? Still, what can you do something about it if you've found a wonderful man/woman who likes you, but the timing for the two of you just doesn't work out?;

How to tell if you are with the right person at the wrong time

The following guide reveals 8 signs that this is the case. Read on to find out if this is really the situation you are in:

1. Your long-term goals are not aligned

Just when you think you've found the perfect person to spend the rest of your life with, you realize that you've also found the perfect person to spend the rest of your life with. your long-term goals are not aligned. For example, you may want children and the other half couldn't think of anything worse. Another example could be that you want to travel the world but the other half doesn't want to leave their city. It doesn't always have to be objective reasons as it could also just be the mindset of the person. If you are a person who is pursuing their goals but they would just like to stay in the same job and live in the same apartment for the rest of their lives, you will not be a good match.

Although you feel they are the right person for you, you can't imagine changing your life plans to be with them. You'll know if your ambitions don't align if you cringe when you hear about their plans. This shows you that you will not be able to cope with living your life as they do.

Such things obviously keep people apart, because we will only let ourselves into relationships with people with whom we can really imagine a future.

2. One of you may have recently come out of a long-term relationship

This point can be on either side. If you just got out of a long-term relationship, it can feel awful to know that you just met someone who is perfect for you, but you can't be with them because you have to mourn the loss of your relationship and your former partner.

However, rather than looking at it in a negative way, it is actually a really mature decision not to move too quickly and allow yourself time to grieve. If you had decided to go straight into a new relationship, it could end badly if you had not gone all the way.

On the other hand, if you are single, it can be difficult to know that your «right» counterpart has just come out of a serious or long-term relationship. When people come out of long-term or serious relationships, it can be very difficult and really unhealthy to move on too quickly. So if they haven't got over it, it may hurt you, but you should accept the fact and allow them time to move on as they see fit.

It is best for you to stay away from these people, as you do not want to feel like their «stepping stone» as this could very much confuse your emotions.

3. You or this person are going to leave town soon

Once again, this can happen to either of them. It can be disheartening if you know that you and this person are really «bonding» but will soon be leaving town. Perhaps he travels frequently, is moving to a different city, or his job requires him to go halfway around the world.

The same may be true for you. Maybe a few weeks before you met you signed a contract to go to work in London or Dubai. It can be very hard to know that you have to leave, even though you've just met the perfect person for you.

However, if this is the situation for you or for him, you will probably both act selfishly and follow what you had planned. This will be especially true if you have not known each other for a long time.

4. There is too much work commitment right now for one of you

It doesn't really matter what kind of work you do, since if someone is more committed to their career than to their relationships, then it will never work. You may have just got the big break you have always been looking for by doing something you love and you will not miss this opportunity for anything or anyone. You'll be more focused on seizing the opportunity than starting a serious relationship.

On the other hand, perhaps the other half is now starting their own business. He will be more concerned with working late and going to meetings than surrounding you with his love.

So if one of you has a big commitment to your job right now, your relationship is not going to blossom under these circumstances.

5. You both live far away from each other

You may have met this person and fallen in love with them, only to realise that they live on the other side of the country, or worse, in another country. Long distance relationships can work, but it depends on how much effort you both put into it. If you have just met or are in the early stages of a relationship, it is possible that one of you may not be willing to put yourself into a long-distance relationship.

Also, if you long for a very close relationship and this person lives far away, then they will not meet your needs or standards, so they will fail.

6. The age difference between the two of you is too great

You may have met a person you think is right for you, but you don't have the experiences they have. For example, they may be much older than you or vice versa. Age usually doesn't matter much and most of the time it's not a problem if two people really love each other. Nor does age correspond to maturity, so even if you were dating a much younger person but they were very mature, then it could be a very good thing.

The difficulty occurs when two people want different things in life at a given moment. A younger person may want to have a more casual relationship, while an older person may want something more serious that will stand the test of time. It may also happen that you fall in love with someone who has more life experience than you - they may have children and have already been married and divorced.

Or, the only thing you want in the world may be to have children and get married, but that person is «in another phase». You may be thinking how unfortunate it is that you didn't meet before all of this, since the person seems perfect except for their age and their expectations of the relationship.

7. Maybe he just doesn't want a relationship right now

A real unfair situation is when a person likes you and you think they are your ideal match, but they just don't want to have a relationship with anyone. This is probably because they have been hurt in the past and don't trust anyone to «open» their heart again. At least not right now.

You may be ready to start a relationship with him and he may also like you. But he will refuse your offer saying something along the lines of «the timing is wrong». This can be discouraging, but you can't change his mind about what he wants at the present time. You have to respect his decisions.

8. He may already have someone

You could have fantastic «chemistry» with a person who is already in a relationship. You could also have amazing sex between the two of you, which is essential in a relationship. However, when you told him how you felt, he told you that he has no intention of giving up the relationship he is in. There is obviously no point in continuing it, but you feel it is unfair that you have met a person who is so good for you. You might be wondering why you didn't meet this person before someone else «snatched» them up.

You really can't do anything in this situation. His relationship status is preventing you from being together.

What you can do if you met the right person at the wrong time

Depending on the situation you have one of the following options:

*Try to make it work

If you are really in love with someone, nothing should stop you, not even the fact that you seem to have met each other at the wrong time. Tell him how you feel and try to make it work. However, before you do this, it might be a good idea to ask yourself some serious questions, such as:

• Do you think the relationship would work if you made the effort?;
• Do you think no one else could compare?;
• Is it worth the risk?;

You don't want to cheat, encourage someone to cheat or destroy a relationship. If there are smaller issues such as long distance or work commitments, then you can try to make it work.

*Stop watching completely

If you are not willing to take the risk, it might be a good idea to stop seeing this person altogether. If you're never going to have a relationship with him, then what's the point of staying?; It is better to stop seeing altogether. If they are a friend or have somehow been present in your life for a long time, it might be a good idea to talk to them and explain why you cannot continue to have contact.

Also, if the issue is that you know that your expectations of the relationship are not the same and will never be the same, this is also a very good reason to end the relationship.

*Start a relationship anyway

This advice only applies to the issue of work commitments, the fact that you'll be leaving town soon, or the fact that your long-term goals don't align. The question you can ask yourself here is: «Is it better to be hurt but to have loved than never to have loved?»

If you really want to start dating this person, then you can always do so. However, it is important before you start to form an emotional attachment with him, to discuss the fact that this is just a short-term thing and agree that neither of you can say that it will last. As long as you both agree, there should be no confusion in the future. However, be aware that your feelings will probably (definitely) get hurt.

*To spend a night of passion together and nothing else

Once again this is not the case if the issue is that the person you are interested in is having an affair.

If you both know you can't be together because it's the wrong time, but you still want each other, you could always decide to spend a night of passion together. This is obviously not going to fix anything in the future, but it may help that you enjoyed each other.

*Forget this person and get on with your life

If your timing is preventing you from being with a person, this is probably the universe's way of telling you that you should not be together for some reason. So instead of wasting your time and thoughts on that person, «cut the knife» from all contact with him and move on with your life. You can either remain lonely, or you can start looking for love elsewhere.

Somewhere out there is the right person for you and you will meet it at the right time, no doubt. You deserve a love that doesn't hold you back or make you change yourself or your situation in life. So, stop fantasizing about what you could never have with this person and start opening your eyes to what you could have with other people.