For others to always do what you want, the solution is not to raise your voice. All you will achieve by doing so is, at best, to put the person you are talking to on the defensive and, at worst, to make them go against you. In order to approach your interlocutor in such a way that he comes to your side, you must employ different means.
Kindness, patience, determination and appropriate timing are just a few of the psychological tricks you can use for your «holy» purpose.
But what are the others and why are they so important in human conversations?;
Use body language
This is one of the most important tricks you should have in your quiver. The way you stand will help you to get a better connection with the person you are talking to and make them feel better. It does, however, require a lot of attention: Not all circumstances are the same but. You will speak differently at a lunch with your friends, at a work party and at a reunion with your old classmates.
Ask for a favor
Favours are a really powerful weapon. When you use them, you create the impression that the person you are talking to has an important role in your life. And in this case you have to be careful. What you ask for must have real value and not just be something of opportunity. Because grace is only important if it is rare.
Ask a lot to get a little
Asking someone for something extravagant is sure to get your proposal rejected. But if you automatically ask for something less extravagant, there is a chance that your suggestion will eventually be accepted. Your parents are, of course, the masters of this genre. How many times haven't they asked you to do chores, with the reward for them being a new gaming machine?;
Look him in the eye
Eye contact is one of the most important psychological tricks and helps to create attraction, understanding and honesty in the conversation. And it may seem difficult at first to make eye contact with a stranger for more than two seconds, however, it is a technique that builds over time and requires practice.
Use psychological tricks
Scanning the psychology of your interlocutor plays a very important role. There are people who are difficult to open up to, others who misunderstand at the slightest thing and others who lose their temper. By observing their own body movement, you will understand their moods and act accordingly. Important note: do not jump to conclusions.
Address the person you're talking to by name
Showing someone that you know their name automatically wins them over, as they know they are dealing with a person who cares about them. Conversely, if you address an interlocutor impersonally, you create a wall that you have to climb to reach out to. Warning: don't get names confused, because none of these psychological tricks will work afterwards.
Spread your enthusiasm
In order to convince someone to help you with whatever you ask them to do, they need to understand that this «whatever» is very important to you. So by communicating your enthusiasm, it is very likely that they will be excited about what you propose. Thus you will both end your conversation satisfied.
Find the right timing
This is not only true in this case. You should always listen to the moment and be discreet. So choose a time in the day when your interlocutor is relaxed and not so distracted by other aspects of his or her daily life.
Speak calmly
There's no need to panic. This will only create anxiety and tension in the person you are facing and you will ultimately fail in your initial goal. Speak calmly, eloquently and take your time. If the person you are talking to wants to listen to you they will, whether you complete your thought in two seconds or a minute.
Make it clear what you want
Don't go around. Speak clearly about what you want and ask for it. That's the only way you might get the answer you want. Otherwise, if your interlocutor realizes that you are trying to use unfair psychological trolls against him, deceiving him or hiding the whole truth, all he will do reflexively is to reject you. And he won't be wrong.
