There is no doubt that personal happiness is a universal human need, which is greatly influenced by the quality of the partner-relationship of the person. When the individual experiences moments of happiness at this level, the sense of contentment, bliss and success in his or her entire life is enhanced.
Of course, it is not possible to define clearly and objectively what exactly constitutes happiness in a relationship. Like many other issues, it is a matter of. a purely personal and subjective matter.
On the other hand, research in the field of psychology highlights certain traits, attitudes and behaviours that appear to be Common in couples who are considered happy. So what are the characteristics of happy couples?;
They share a deep, mutual and meaningful love: Each member of the couple regularly and actively expresses the feeling of love, verbally and non-verbally.
They take care of their partner: Each member of the couple recognizes, respects and cares about meeting the needs of the other, of course with balance and equality between them.
They admire each other: They feel and express appreciation and recognition in the face of others, feeling pride in their achievements and values.
They show mutual trust: The couple believes in a shared commitment to the relationship and experiences comfort in communication, emotional security and mutual trust.
They establish open communication with each other: The comrades try to talk systematically, clearly, honestly and effectively about whatever concerns them, without recriminations, through fruitful dialogue.
They are trying to solve the problems: They focus in a positive and optimistic way on identifying and finding solutions to deal with their difficulties rather than perpetuating them, without unfair attacks and constant complaints.
They are distinguished for their shared vision: Happy couples set mutually acceptable goals together and define their lives around companionship and connection.
They seek contact: They seek to spend qualitative and quantitative time together, expressing the desire for contact, spiritual, companionship and erotic.
They put their relationship first: They recognize the needs of the relationship, make sure they spend time on joint activities, organize pleasant moments for both of them.
They work as a team: They understand the common good of their relationship, band together to overcome difficulties and come together to support each other and defend their bond.
There are many signs from which we can distinguish a happy couple. Perhaps the most important characteristic, worth keeping alive in our minds, is that they stay together out of desire, choice and love - not out of necessity and obligation.
Dr Natalia Koutrouli is a health psychologist, trained in cognitive psychotherapy and counselling.
